.........................................Destiny Is No Matter Of Chance, It Is A Matter Of Choice!















'You are today where the thoughts of yesterday have brought you and you will be tomorrow where the thoughts of today take you.' - Blaise Pascal

........................................'Destorting Mirrors don't reflect the way you really look.'




'All the world's a stage, and the men and woman merely players: they have their exits and their entrances; and one man in his time plays many parts' - William Shakespeare




Monday, 31 January 2011

Warning!! Binge thinking may lead to binge drinking!!


When people are stressed they search for ways to numb there mental state. They may turn to excessive consumption of alcohol for example - tempting when you feel the need for a pick me up. It provides relief by numbing the brain. At the same time, because it works on the brain in a matter of minutes, it straight away alters the mix of neuro-chemicals, increasing the release of dopamine and serotonin - providing instant relief. So 'binge thinking' may lead to 'binge drinking'.

If not 'self-medicating' with alchohol, during a stressed state, some people use recreational (and prescription) drugs. These drugs trigger a flush of dopamine which increases a sense of feeling relaxed, so they can become highly addictive.

Others will increase their intake of nicotine as they increase their consumption of cigarettes, which again triggers an instant release of dopamine. Some indulge in overeating to deal with their state of mind.

Surveys in the UK and USA continually show that between more than 50 and 70% of people - at any one time- are extremely concerned about the amount of stress in their lives. Furthermore, a 'stress in america' survey carried out by the American Psychological Assosiation (APA) in 2007 showed that job stress is the number one stress for inderviduals.

Other results relating to our behaviours during stress in the APA survey were also interesting - although not surprising. One-fifth of drinkers reported drinking too much; two-thirds of smokers said they smoked more; half of the people surveyed said they had destured sleep; and nearly one half of the respondents admitted to either overeating or reaching for unhealthy or 'junk' food.

A stressor can be external - in the sense that it comes from your senses, something you see, hear, feel, taste or touch - or internal a thought that you hold. What's important to be aware of though is that all stressors end up being internal - in other words, they end up as part of your thought process; and a troubled one at that.

Stress tends to be classified into two areas relating to it's severity: minor and major. The minor areas are the everyday ones that we endure (Traffic Jams, Bills, tiredness etc). The major ones are the life events that tend to be more significant: illness, moving house, a new job, a promotion at work, redundancy, divorce, new baby.

It's interesting that when people are asked which of the two stressors are the most disruptive and unhealthiest, most people will say the major ones. Yet all the research - from the consulting rooms, therapist's offices and kitchen tables-shows that it is the small stressors on an everyday basis that 'break the camel's back'. This is because the minor stressors are so relentless and we get used to the assault, we tend not to take them as seriously as the major stressors - which occur less frequently and usually make us focus on getting through the problem.

'Stress' really intrigues me, because i dont believe it to be something we should necessarily accept as an unavoidable factor of life, why should we? Yet, we all do, we just 'get on with it'. Numb ourselves with substances, laugh it off. This only furthers my questioning of our society, is our culture and guidelines, provided by our goverment, enaberling us to live, or forcing us to do what we have to do in order to survive? To me i see a zoo and i see rules and illusion, the rules and the illusion are keeping the people who were born in the cages, in the cages, or making it very difficult for them to brake free, but it is not impossible.

Related Books - Mind Power By James Borg
'When i read about the evils of drinking, i gave up reading.' - Henry Youngman

Wednesday, 26 January 2011


'If you're pretty crazy you're in good company, because the human race as a whole is out of its goddam head... If the Martians ever find out how we human beings think they'll kill themselves laughing.' - Albert Ellis. (founder of REBT ) Rational Emotive Behaviour Therapy))


The Victor

If you think you are beaten, you are,
If you think you dare not, you dont.
If you'd like to win, but think you can't,
It's almost certain you won't.

if you think you will lose, you've lost.
For out of the world we find,
Success begins with a fellow's will,
It's all in the state of mind.

Full many a race is lost,
Ere ever a step is run.
And many a coward fails,
Ere ever his work's begun.

Think big and your deeds will grow,
Think small and you'll fall behind,
Think that you can, and you will,
It's all in the state of the mind.

If you think you are outclassed, you are,
You've got to think high to rise,
You've got to be sure of yourself before
You can ever win a prize.

Life's battles don't always go
To the stronger or faster man.
But soon or late the man who wins,
Is the man who thinks he can.

by Walter Wintle

There is no such thing as reality, only perception (you create your own reality through your perception)

'How should we regard failure? It's a perception and a belief. It's not an outcome and a fact.'

'When you spend your life thinking in a 'distorted' way, you strengthen the connections between the neurons. Result? You become an expert in distorted thinking.'

'Whether your an optimist or a pessimist may not effect the outcome. It is just that the optimist has a better time in life.'

'Men are desturbed not by things, but the view they take of them.'

Monday, 24 January 2011




I absolutely adore the make-up and styling in Kanye West's new video 'Run away'. The message i receive from both the music and the visual is that of the over powering dominance of society over nature. Everyone forced to conform to a way of life that is so fake.


This is an angle/theme i am working with in some visuals that i am currently planning for, the message seems very relevant in our modern world.




'They play it safe, and are quick to assassinate, what they do not understand, they move in packs, ingesting more and more fear on one another, they feel most comfortable in groups, less guilt to swallow, they are us, this is what we have become, afraid to respect the indervidual. A single person with inner circumstance can move one to change to love our-self and evolve.'

2011' New Years Resolution. Always to pay attention to this statement when making my decisions.

A Good Woman Knows What She Deserves And Puts That Above What She Desires.

Friday, 21 January 2011

When Thomas Edison was asked how it felt to have failed 700 times with his attempts at the electric light bulb, he replied: 'I have not failed 700 times. I have not failed once. I have succeeded in proving those 700 ways will not work, when i have eliminated all the ways that will not work, i will find the way that will work.' Quite a healthy attitude that we can all learn from and a good illustration of perspective. One view would be critical of the self; the other looks at failure as a pathway to eventual success.

Wednesday, 19 January 2011

The Power Of Thought

'The way you feel on a day-to-day basis is determined solely by how you think. As far as your own life is concerned. It's make or break. No two ways about it; life's a battle - in varying degrees - for all of us. We face dissappointments, worries, frustrations, financial problems, talk of impending doom on the state of the planet, not to mention the trauma of dealing with that other 'natural disaster' - human beings.

Although it is part of the human condition that we should naturally blame other people or our own particular life 'script' for making us angry, stressed, sad, disgusted, anxious or whatever, in truth it's our thoughts that dictate how we feel and determine our subsequent behaviour.' - James Borg

No matter how much you believe in a thought, or how real it may feel, that doesn't always make it so. Control your thought's, don't let them control you. If you catch yourself spiraling into thoughts that sadden you then you are going to be sad, if you humour thoughts of failure then you are probably going to fail, BUT if you direct your attention towards memories and possibilities of happiness and success then you are more likely to be and to do so. Why? because you will have more energy, you will react to situation's more possitively, you will have less stress, you will be more present in the moment and you will naturaly move away from the chains provided by negativity.

'We may not have control over the content of thoughts, but we have control of how we assess them. Your thoughts do not have the power to hurt you unless you give them power.'

Monday, 17 January 2011


It is time to get test shooting. I have done so much research and have found so many inspiring sources, which should make for some realy 'different' shoots. 'Different' being key when aspiring for originality. I am very excited and will be sure to post any new work on here. To take a look at some of my old stuff before i took some time out then check out the link below.

http://www.wix.com/bexmakeupandstyling/bexmakeupandstyling

Keep Learning, Keep Moving, Keep Smiling, Keep bruising....Keep living

Monday, 10 January 2011

'Success is when preperation meets opportunity'

Wednesday, 5 January 2011

'When we try to push reality to make it the way we want it, were not happy. Anything that argues with reality is stressful'. - Byron Katie (Seen in an article inside the magazine Soul & Spirit)

I can relate to this more than i can anything i have come across in a long time. You can frame your future but you can't argue with your present. There is a difference between possitivity and ignorance.

Tuesday, 4 January 2011

"Better keep yourself clean and bright; you are the window through which you must see the world." -George Bernard Shaw